Love, a many splendored thing, whether found online or on the dancefloor.
A FRIEND of mine told me this week that he and his wife had spent the evening going through the couples who had attended their wedding day less than a decade ago who had since split up.
“It would be easier to count those who are still together” he confessed gloomily.
After chatting about the findings of that evening and what a shame it was marriage doesn’t always last forever, we got to talking how couples met nowadays.
Like many people who met their life partner around the same era as me, my friend met his wife during a night out at a Preston nightclub.
But these days you rarely hear of people meeting their other halves during a night out. It’s more likely to be during a night in with the laptop.
Online dating and social media flirting is the new going to clubs and offering to buy someone a drink.
Unlike when meeting someone online first hit the scene, people no longer feel embarrassed or ashamed to admit how they REALLY met.
Instead of furtively avoiding your eyes and blurting “We met through mutual friends”, people now announce loud and proud that they met through a dating website.
And so they should as there is absolutely nothing to be abashed about.
Meeting online is now the norm and in these time-poor cash-poor modern days, people just don’t have the time or quite frankly the inclination to go on endless nights out in the hope of meeting their perfect match in a darkened room with throbbing music.
Many of my close friends and family who have lovely partners have admitted meeting their prince or princess with a little help from the world wide web.
Some have even since tied the knot or moved in with the man or woman they met through chatting online and couldn’t be happier.
That’s not to say they didn’t meet a few frogs and toads along the way before – but how is that any different to more conventional ways of dating?
Indeed, if I was now single, I am sure I too would turn to online forms of meeting someone as I just don’t think I could muster up the energy to go pubbing and clubbing every night waiting for Mr Right to walk through the door.
However, if things between Hubby and I were ever to go into meltdown, I have a backup plan as one of my male friends (who is happily married) has joked there would be no need for me to join a dating website as all I would have to do is give him a call and we’ll disappear into the sunset together.
But my mate who met his love match in Squires says there is one downside to modern online based dating – the death of the chat-up line.
“Friday nights used to be about going out with your mates and using your chat-up lines and hoping you pulled.” he lamented.
“Then if you were successful, Saturday night was for taking out the girl you met the night before.”
While I can see why he is hankering over the past for those heady days when you never knew how a night out with the girls or the lads would end and whether you would meet the love of your life or not, the modern time online dating does seem to have some things going for it.
It may spell the death of the chat up line, but it means there is more dating, getting to know each other and flirting through the typed or texted word rather than a drunken snog at the end of the night.
And I have to say, if there’s one thing I don’t miss, it’s being on the receiving end of cheesy chat up lines.
With lines oozing more cheese than an over-ripe piece of Stilton such as “If I could rearrange the alphabet, I would put U and I together” and “Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk past again”, maybe some things are better left buried in the past.
Then there are the more outrageous lines such as “I love your dress - it would look great on my bedroom floor”and “How do you like like your eggs in the morning? Fertilised?”
Or in keeping with the modern age, there’s the incredibly cheesy “Are you Google? Because you have everything I’m searching for.”
A few years ago, while on a night out with the girls, I was momentarily touched when towards the end of a night at a club, a lad came up to me and earnestly said: “Excuse me, I’ve been watching you all night and trying to pluck up the courage to come and talk to you.
“Please will you dance with me to this last song?”
“I’m sorry, I’m married.” I told him showing him my wedding ring. “Oh. You’re married! Damn.” he tutted before walking off in a huff.
“Ahhh, how sweet I thought. What a nice lad.”
Until a few minutes later when I saw him try out the same line on another girl.
And this time he scored.
Happy dating everyone!